Ahh the New Year...
I have to liken the old year somewhat to the schoolyard
chatter of “take it back.”
It seems that so often we want a sort of “do over.” You know, like in 6th grade when
someone said you were stupid, or you wanted to have your turn again in Chinese
jump rope because you stepped on the rope.
We look backward and say that the coming year, we will “do better,” “be
better,” “act better.”….a sort of “take it back” from the previous year-the “do
over.” Yet, is there really a “take it back?”
NO.
BUT… there is something…
So, in this New Year blog, I want to …well, just read it...
My point is NOT to be passive aggressive (geesh, can we eliminate that obnoxiousness on social media—!!!) about some shit that I am trying
to get out to people in my life or whatever. The message is “within” my story-about my
life-I couldn’t stop thinking about it on a much bigger level. I couldn’t stop thinking about how this (one
sentence) moment in my life might translate/integrate/relate into someone
else’s story.
…because bitterness is like a trend these days (#me).
My reasoning for these words is to maybe give a pause for
thought (for lack of a better phrase), not just to the words “take it back,”
but to the
Notion… of “take it back,” to the “it’s ok,” to the “I
know,” to the “I know you are sorry, and we are more than this moment or those
moments, and I love you.”
I mean…who the
hell can’t relate to this??
I recently reached out to a friend to tell her Happy New
Year. I have been friends with her for
12 years. In that 12 years, we have been
aquaintances, friendly, close, closer, and recently, somewhat distant. A few days before NYE, I reached out to many
of my friends—some close-some distant- to wish them a Happy New Year because I
love each of them, individually, particularly for the memories and more
importantly, the moments in time—you know the ones that will connect you with
someone forever (like a song on the radio that instantly creates time travel)…
–to grow and to reconnect that very connection.
OK, and yes honestly, to some, to say, behind the cover of
“Happy New Year:” can I get a “take it
back?” Can I get a “do over.”
My view:
A friend is
someone who loves
…and is compassionate and
empathetic
…but does
not forget
that the connection is what binds.
So, back to this friend.
After I texted her…she texted back the next day. She wished me a Happy New Year. She shared with me a few things about her
holiday break, asked me some advice, and then she said these words;
“I
don’t want to lose our friendship.”
I instantly cried and cried.
As we move into this new year…oh 2016, you are here…
Just-
Think about what might happen if you reached out to someone
part of your past-and maybe, your present-the now-, your memory bank, a piece of who you
were, who you are now. Think about what
might happen if you both said:
“I take
it back.” Let’s have a “do over.”
Life is short. We
hear it all the time. But, if life is
short, then why not share the short time we have with the people we not only
love…but why don’t we share that time with the connections to make us who we are?
So, with that, my decision in 2016 is a combination of the
last few years: a “take it back,” a “do
over:”
Do or do not…there is no try
Read
Play
Write
And …second (or 3rd or 4th) …
OK, OK …NEW chances.
Happy New Year!!!!
2016.
Yes, it’s ok that you
called me stupid…you can take it back.
Yeah, you can have a
do over on the zig zag on the Chinese jump rope.
Absolutely.
